Your reverse clutch drum serrated tooth has worn out and is smooth, this is a known problems with X5 transmissions and a few other BMW's. Options
1- get a rebuilt transmission
2- get a used transmission( with this you may have the same problem all over again)
3- try to rebuilt your self and just replace the reverse drum





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