If it is not the battery (or the OP has certified the battery is ok), then its time to move on with other components.

OP, pls ask QSilver7 for a schematic diagram (battery, starter, starter relay, fuel relay, involved Fuses, DME) make sure to tell him your complete vehicle information.

EDIT: Something like this
WDS BMW Wiring Diagram System - X5 E53

Good luck!

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2004 E53 3.0L 6 Cyl
Engine Code: M54
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2004 E46 M3 Coupe 3.2L 6 Cyl
Engine Code: S54
MT: S6S 420G - 6 speed
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2009 E90N 328xi Sedan 6 Cyl
Engine code: N51
AT: GA6L45R/GM6
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