Hey guys and JCL!! Sorry for the long late reply but life has had its fun with me.. So I have been driving the X5 this whole time in Manual mode while trying little things. Nothing fixed it.. I actually swapped the harness going to the tranny then Sunday I got another kick in the "balls" and my DME (MS43) engine computer decided to drink a cup of water and go to ECU heaven! I got lucky and had a spare 7551615 In the garage so I spent 1 1/2 days trying to figure out how to get that bugger to work in my X5... Bring a rocket scientist in all I actually got a used ECU to work!! Win for Jake.. Lol It just took a case of beer, WinKFP, INPA, DIS and a soldering iron and my $75 used module is running perfect!
Well, after swapping out the computer (old one showed prior water damage) the tranny seams to shift different! I get a hesitation between gears now. I also was watching the live data on solenoids. When in manual mode I see when I shift the different solenoids get activated and the tranny shift right then. But when in automatic mode I see the solenoids activated but the tranny doesn't shift for a few more seconds (say 5 seconds or so).. Would that be internal valve body issues or clutches?

PS... If anyone wants a how to on swapping out a DDM with a used one please feel free to ask and I might make a post about it soon..! It saved me $400-1000!!!