First press 'speaking' and hold button then turn key to 1! R/T is when u r paired and button changes position from radio tuner and what else there! It is strange u do not have 'speaking' button... it means u will not pair! It should be on steering wheel or in the arm rest.... in the arm rest when your car has telephone inside arm rest.
If u want to use bluetooth from factory..u have to find Nokia from stone age to get sure works at least!
What u swaped? Module from the trunk under navi?
Telematic control as I remember... it was for emergency in Germany if something happens..u put there details about car! But to get in to telematic u have to hold one of buttons very long!