Thanks for the replies everybody it much appreciated.

Ok, I am a total newbie at this so I was hoping I was overreacting.

I will do 5k oil changes as suggested but i will also do option 1 after the vcg works is done.

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Current:2004 E53 4.8is, Sapphire black, Black Nappa leather, Metallic Graphite trim, 20" , "Fixed"(soon) Pano-roof, Webasto heater , 100k and counting

Recent Changes: Front & rear suspension refresh,fluids ,cv boots,air spings bearings and hubs

Planned Change: Pano-roof, cover gaskets.