It's the wifes car.

I picked up on the vibration/idle noise a couple months ago. Did some poking around and found 1 MM bad. Swapped both when out. I cannot recall it was as pronounded post repair.

Just happened to be driving the car on Sunday and picked up on both.
On the way back, I was at least able to observe when the vibration was at idle and one under load, it went away.

Re: the noise, well, the radio's usually on so it's muffled...I picked it up before the radio kicked in, and once moving, the road noise muffles it. With the radio on mute, at stop, def. can pick up the noise.