Hot dog! Cleaned and pro-gold on the transmission connector and my gear shift now matches the dash! No more mystery "??? Gear 14"

Thank you @srmmmm to tell me to look at that connector. For now I left the boot off so water can't fill up the connector. I'm going to figure out the source and will be using dielectric grease to keep water out as well as silicone in the boot itself.

One and done on that repair I like to jump in puddles.

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2011 E70 • N55 (me)
2012 E70 • N63 (wife)