well fark me(your right andrewwynn) after all the drama`s it was a simple fix. I will get to it after my big speal about how I come about it lol. I decided to go back over the diagnosis that the transmission shop gave me and all the faults it had about 30ish or more. so I pulled up all the faults and cleared as many as it would let me. there were a few that kept appearing and ews communication was one of them. it was only coincidence that I had brought a donor car for the pending transmission parts I would need and had already started researching a stand alone engine transplant not needing ews module etc. so considering i really had nothing to lose I decided to try a module update with ncs expert. it was the very first time I had tried anything of this so I you tubed it and away I went. all I ended up doing was recoding the ews with the latest update and it worked. so I`m guessing the low voltage or the jump start process shut down the ews and wiped the coding or the communication with the dme. anyways it works now so mystery solved. this would easily have to be the most patient I`ve been with any car I`ve ever owned. they really test your patience sometimes.
BIG THANKS to all those that have not only contributed but saved me from torching this shitter that I love haha cheers peeps