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Originally Posted by bcredliner
Saying the article is ridiculous is just an opinion. Nothing to get upset about. It has no reflection on you.
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+1. Unless you were the author and even so. I've been told *many* times what I've just said is ridiculous and a couple of those times the person who said it was correct.
It is *very* easy to miss a single word or even a comma and allow a written phrase really get under your skin. I've had it happen with a heated debate on xoutpost with @bc and in the end came to realize there was no malice. @bc is a very solid member of xo and deserves an amount of respect that comes with a nearly flawless record of doing exactly what do is here for : helping out other people. Don't work to derail that by letting feelings get in the way of logic.
All of us will let our feelings get in the way of being perfect communicators so when it seems like one of us is insulating the other take a step back ans realize that with lack of tone and inflection you more than likely read more into the statement than intended (I'm talking about the initial misunderstanding not the mudslinging that may have come later). In the Navy we would refer to that kind of nonsense as an "error carried forward".
Here's a good example of how it's very easy to misunderstand something tyoed by the slightest mistake:
Yesterday while at the family farm I helped my uncle jack off a horse.
Oops I forgot to capitalize.
My uncle Jack has bad knees and needed a little assistance dismounting the horse.
Assume no malice on xo *especially* from members with multiple thousands of posts. The likes of which are here because for some reason we are drawn to and get satisfaction out of *helping people*.
The best of us will *hit back* when offended even if the offence was a total misread. Some of my favorite xo "buddies" I've had stellar verbal fist fights with but they never got personal with nonsensical put downs. Ad homonym attacks and the likes.
It won't help you them or xo. If it helps nothing it's pointless don't bother.