Mine has 170k on it; I've changed the filter and fluid twice, once at about 95k and again at about 165k. Be 100% sure you remove the filter neck seal from the transmission. It sometimes stays behind when you pull the filter down.

I've been using Valvoline Maxlife multi-vehicle, with zero issues. Still shifts like the day I bought it (I bought it new in 01). First fluid change, I got about 4 quarts out. After a week or so, I drained that and refilled again. Same thing on the second change.

I also replaced the trans cooler/heat exchanger at 165k, along with the trans thermostat/expansion tank/radiator/cap.

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