Funny, I had not thought the Bentley would have useful info on this, due to using the special tool. But I looked it up, scanned and attached here.
In there it does have some good, solid info, such as bushing alignment (arrows fore-aft within 7*) and lubricant (Circolight - googled on that for a while, and will probably use dish soap as a substitute). Also pre-heating prior to removal, with a heat gun with < 600*C for < 2 minutes.
Also solid, but wrong is the spec on torquing those M14 bolts. The Bentley says "163 Nm (94 ft-lb)", but those values are not the same. I'll probably go with the 94 ft-lb if they're class 8.8, or 163 Nm if they're class 10.9.
I'll guess how to make the eBay tool work should be self explanatory, or will rely on that youtube linked above. I know none of this is difficult.
But if I were to follow the Bentley literally, I would first drop the subframe 2", which includes a bunch of other things like disconnecting the differential and removing the exhaust. I know those are not strictly required, so I will have to guess what is actually required. I'll probably just try to do none of the extra stuff until I'm forced to.
I've seen many reports of people bending the exhaust hanger to get the required clearance, vs. the Bentley says to remove the exhaust (so you don't need to bend anything). I know my exhaust comes off pretty easily, so that's one I won't mind doing.