In the end I took the spare out all the covers off and all the 'boxes' out of the nav cd area. The only thing I could not do was get the boot side off I thought the connector may have been stuffed up the side out of the way. I used a mirror but could not see it. There was a hint if you had assist etc then you couls not have VR BUT you would have thought the connector would be there anyway. ALso this was contradicted by many people.

If you find the connector or what happened to it I would be interested as I have been looking for ages dismantling a bit more of the car each time.
John