Whatever the process that's avaliable is the process an honerable person should persue. Whatever existed then is not the process now so it is incumbant on those who enter the country to follow the process for legal status regardless of how you feel about it. As far as your marriage example is concerned it changes nothing. As you say your betrothed committed the "crime" of sneaking into the U.S. The operative wird here is crime. Whatever the law is if your really serious about being a citizen then follow it. Work thru the process. If there happens to be loopholes that can be taken advantage of then that to is the law until it is changed.

As you say "You could start talking about here, and how it has helped eliminate laws promoting segregation, gender discrimination but if I were you i wouldn't go there because each of the things you mention were issues facing American citizens not illegal aliens. Illegal aliens don't have the right to civil disobedience.

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