Originally Posted by blondboinsd

So it seems Chuck can't take the time off for my surgury because i'm not considered a legitimate "person " In the eyes of the goverment (aka our marriage isn't allowed except in Mass) I never thought of it until now, Its kinda scary that he can't make funeral arrangements, can't be on my health plan, follow me in the ER because hes not family and should I need a heart or some life-threatning thing, he couldn't make the call which peeves me more! and we keep seperate accounts for the most part because he can't use mine and I can't use his, I just cried when he told me that, its just really hurtful I feel like some second class citizen, which is funny because I pay the same taxes, so I think i'm considering moving to Canada which while a huge move is something I just might need to really feel equal, I don't care about the marriage part, I just want the person I love, look too and feel is such a huge part of me to be able to make decisions that effect my life either pro-longing or ending it, For once it doesn't matter what I drive or what a nice condo we own its who we love that matters the most, and since this is my 2nd family and my original one is asleep haha i'll vent here I just feel like i'm not an equal citizen grrrr