well, after reading your list, this might not be what you're thinking of, but believe it or not, I would take a look at the Surf Club in Montauk Long Island... it's not Hamptons crazy, the beaches are spectacular, it's not going to break your wallet, and you can be in the hamptons in about 20 minutes if you want to hob nob with the jet setters.

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