You've got a sunshade on the front window, and the sides are heavily tinted. How is she supposed to see it? Lose the tint. Is it legal, ahead of the B pillar?

Yes, you appear to be getting hassled, but if she is driving by and can't see the pass, I don't think you have much of a chance. A photo from the side (where she is looking from) will likely not see through your tint.

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