Bryans,
#1, #2, #3, #5 - Doesn't sound normal to me. Let the dealer look at it since it's under warrantee.

#4 - In auto mode, your Xenon is supposed to turn on ONLY when it's dark. The Xenon will shut off as soon as it detects decent ambient light. If you want daytime running light, the dealer will have to program your car to do so, but it will only light the inner halogens (your dealer may charge you a service fee).

#6 - It's possible to reprogram your locks to not automatically lock (it's programmed to a specific key), but again, your dealer may charge you for this. My advice to you is have your dealer program only ONE key, this way, you have to option to have auto-lock or NO auto-lock simply by picking the proper key (in case you change your mind later about the feature).

#7 - The X will support any OEM setup from 17"-20" (up to 22s for non-OEM). See my previous reply for caveat for going to 20s and beyond. Although, I went from 17s to staggered 19s without noticing too much power loss, but the gain on stability and cornering abilities was very much worth the trade off, not to mention the looks that come with the bigger paws.