get a software update first before you finally toss in the towel..

you not having PDC split screen tells me you probably have an older firmware version... and most dealers will not upgrade unless you make them...(it's very time consuming..)

they already answered the autotailgate "problem."

ipod takes a minute or two if you plug it in while the vehicle is running...

i leave it connected each day and don't have any problems getting it on... (turns right on when i start the engine)

backup camera good in daylight but lousy at night.... normal!! turn your head instead... (and why rely on a camera at night??)

sorry to hear you're disappointed... i had a PDC/DTC button issue on the first week....they replaced it and the X has been fine since....

but to each his own....

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2012 X5 50i M-Sport
2014 X3 35i M-Sport