I have had similar issue on my e46 1999, it was a bad xenon lamp sometimes it would go on and sometimes not.

Bimmer360.
I doubt that your balasts and or lamps wil brake do to turning on and off.
In Sweden Xenons are used as DRL, whitch means a lot of on and off.
Lamp it self might have shorter life but that is it

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