there was a black hose with a blue strip comming off that valve and it was all cracked up at the end. i trimmed about 1/2 inch off and reattached it. im going to clear the codes later on and see if it they dont come back.

i'm hoping that was the problem. it may be time to sell this one and get a newer one with CPO. anyone want a 2002 X5 with a working engine light. haha. seriously though, i love this truck.