thank you for all the help i called the local bmw dealer and he said they have 3 instock i will be picking one up tonight after work and taking my battery out to charge its only a month old and dead because of this problem i will fix everything tomorrow or thurs and let you know if it worked hope it will!

also fyi the part cost $113 at the bmw dealer and it is interchangable between x5 and the 3 series