Thanks for all your answers guys. Really helpful.

The dealer has said the car has Adaptive Drive but I am certain the sport button didnt light up when I pressed it. Wonder if he is misrepresenting that as an option - will try and get him to do ascreen print of all the options from his system. Are there any VIN decoders that will tell me options on the vehicle??

On the software update sems like I need to try and get him to do for me or wait a month or so then take in into my local dealer and complain of problems. Not ideal - always struggled to get them to do under warranty!