Originally Posted by NBTBRV8

Buffboy,

You must have the pairing button. What you can do is buy a pairing button and fit it to your cup holder or tuck it under your cup holder once paired. The button on the wheel is not for pairing, only using the system for voice commands.

The pairing code can't be changed, you need to look in your books to see if you have the bluetooth code listed on the bluetooth card or look at the label on the bluetooth ULF in the boot above your CD player behind the trim.

I've got an M3 too and whilst not in the same state can help you if you get stuck. Send me a PM if need be.