Sorry skiboats ... didn't see your post until now.

I called DDM and they said I need these to resolve my problem:
http://us.st12.yimg.com/us.st.yimg.c..._2034_18608070

Warning Code EliminatorSome cars will generate a bulb out warning message or even turn the headlight/foglights off when connecting HID to them. Our cancellation modules fool the computer in the car and allow the HIDs to work flawlessly.

Mister2 said he needed something different (relays?) so not sure if these are what he was talking about (I don't think so). The Warning Code Eliminator is supposed to fix my 2 problems:
1) Lights wont' stay on (just flicker)
2) Get message "check fog lamps".

They are another $40 plus shipping so $50 more which comes to about $100 total. The guy I talked to said that I basically need this with ANY of their kits - mentioning it's the X and not the kits. Don't know if I believe that but have ordered it.

On another note, I have xenon match Hoens from mtX5 that he gave me when I helped him with his HID fogs. They are H3 though .. not H11 which are for 2003+ if I'm not mistaken. You can have the pair for $20 shipped. Just PM me.

I'll update my post once I get them in about a week. If you get those other ones from HIDNY let us know how it goes. If it works without giving you startup and error messages as noted, plus no extra relays/error cancelling required, then maybe that's the real deal for about $100 - not bad I say.