Okay, I've given up. The "updated" aftermarket ballasts quit working for me. It seems my onboard computer is very stubborn and only wants to work with original parts.
Now that I recall I had the same issue with tail lights way back when, and the dealer gave me brand new ones under warrantee since they thought the ones I got (on ebay) were faulty stock ones (SCORE

).
Anyway, back to the topic, I took out the P53s and packaged them back up nicely for the vendor, and re-installed my stock headlights, its a relief that my lowbeams are now working with no issues, its been a while. Ugly amber corners, but that will change soon enough.
The vendor is being great, and will refund my purchase completely upon receipt of the package.
I am in in kahouts with a member here, working on a top secret headlight project. I'm looking forward to the outcome and will send all praises necessary to the deserving individual once finished. (

don't wanna let everyone in on the secret just yet) All i'll say, is that I'll be able to use all original components for the HID.