I ended up cutting the plug and splicing the wires into the fog lights, for others who want to go my route this is what I did:
1: pulled out foglights from front bumper (http://www.xoutpost.com/articles/x5/l...bs-bmw-x5.html)
2: cut the wires to the fogs, spliced in about 12" of my own wire to each of the wires (brown(-), yellow w/brown stripe(+)), I put a small knot around the wire I spliced into the brown wire so I would remember later
3: put the foglights back into the car, reached under headlights and pulled my spliced wires up.
4: connected black(from headlight) to brown(knotted), and Blue(headlight) to Yellow W/ brown stripe.

Everything works, I am going to go for a jog since the sun came out here in Seattle, hopefully will get a wash in and pictures up tonight.