I had the exact problem and told the dealer and they could not find anything wrong. Then I came back again but this time I left the car in front of the dealer over night so they could understand what I am talking about. They tried to reprogram the tranny but to no avail. The next step for them was to replace the tranny and they did. The problem is solved now.

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