What is the monetary hit if you go out of network? Is it significant enough to risk the in-network guy? This is your spine and nervous system, it's not the time to skimp due to $$$$. If money isn't too big of an issue, I would schedule the surgery asap with the out of network guy and badger the insurance company later.

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