Well, I'm a bit late to the party here but here's one more vote for C&D...I suppose the reassurance is still good for you to hear!
While I didn't end up going there (I guess I really should have from the results on the board here!) I also heard from a big time enthusiast about C&D. Good luck with everything.
Also, as I JUST went through a front bumper repair ($3800 total) might I add that this may be an opportunity for you to add the 4.8is kit to your repair since she's in the shop. Morristown BMW worked me a crazy-good price on the parts for my body shop to use so it worked out real well. Not sure if that's of any interest to you but we just had the front and back 4.8is "kit" added to our 3.0 and it looks AWESOME. Shoot me a PM if you'd like to hear the details.
Here's a link to my post on my bumper job and everyone's wonderful insight on how to best do this.
PS glad to hear your wife is ok.
http://www.xoutpost.com/bmw-sav-foru...ated-pics.html