Pages of threads on the "topic", but I can understand the OP's consternation.
Otoh, in the scheme of "costs", an annual oil/filter change, paid by an owner,
is not penal, imo.

If I had a new diesel, I would do it; I still do an annual change on our 3 cars
and 3 scoots. I realize the car(s) oil may go "longer", but the reasonable cost
is acceptable to me.

The cost accountants got their way: the annual "change" was costing some
real dough spread across all the BMWs sold in the US. It is what it is...
GL, mD