Here is the final word from SoCalMotorsports...from 12/05 on (I guess to the end of the E53 run) the lugs are not the same as the earlier ones.
My build date is 03/06, it pays to check the VIN when ordering parts...
They are sending me the correct lugs...
So, hopefully that is the end of that saga.
Daniel
Thanks SoCal...

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