I do empathize with your situation--my transmission failed( luckily I was still under CPO warranty)

However, this is not the place to say you will never buy a BMW again. Were here to help, not listen to you rant about how much you hate your X5-- as it is a direct insult to us. We all are in love with our X5s.

Sorry that came out a bit harsh, just saying what everyone else here is thinking

With that off my chest, may I suggest going to an independent or specialty transmission shop? The price will be a fraction of what it is at the dealer.or If you are very mechanically inclined, you can rebuild it yourself. I think there are a couple DIY write-ups on it here.

Don't complain, because we have solutions!

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