FWIW, (although I guess it won't help you find a solution), with my 2005, over the years I went from a Razr V3, to an iPhone 4, to an iPhone 4S, each time paired with NO problems, uploaded directories, VR worked immediately each time... only thing I did that might be different, I cleared out old directory/phone before attempting to pair each time...

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