Thanks guys i'm going to start going through everything this weekend. Going to start with video scoping the cylinders to see if theres any scoring. If that checks out i'll change out the temp sensor,water pump, thermostat, coolant tank and anything else that needs it.
Slick, I bought it used in 06 with just over 12k on it it has 38,757 on it now. Here's what i can remember of what has gone wrong. front CV boots, the whole air ride system witch the dealer had for almost 2 months the first time a few window regulators, brakes, nav screen,sunroof track and motor,the coolant tube that runs from the front to the back of the engine block, that was a lot of fun! front air springs and compressor witch i just replaced again but this time with Arnott parts and i was just about to replace the transmission mechatronics module because it hangs up sometimes shifting from 3rd to 4th and when going along at like 45 it feels like the brakes are being tapped every 10 sec. and im sure theres a handful of little shit i missed. Is it me or does that seem like a lot in 25k?