OK Terminator (i should probably just start calling you by your real name now lol:
Analyzing the picture of the X609 connector from page 1 of this DIY and from my previous page where I found the picture of it unplugged, this is the type of pin that fits into the X609:
Looks like its not too special, and a round male pin might just fit in there? maybe something we can do universal, or like I said I could just remove pins 10 and 12 from harness, snip off the female pin, and connect with butt connectors or solder.