Just got back from the BMW indy shop... interesting twist to the story... It wasn't throwing a code for the 4x4... this guy seemed to know what he was talking about.. he saw codes for my airbag (red airbag dash light is on currently) and also saw a code for my sunroof panel (I just disengaged the 2nd smaller panel as it was stuck open)..

They said they believe the DSC system is not engaging and is the problem... When you push the DSC button to engage or disengage when the car is running nothing is happening... I didn't know to check this but they showed me... THey think that system is not functioning but since its deactivated somehow its not throwing a code... They seemed to know their "BMW" stuff at this shop (and didn't even charge me).. Anything I can do to check the DSC system?