cheers mate, i've done this change.
to help anybody else who may want to do this, here's how:
remove the black socket (X300) going into the PDC module, shown below:
tap onto the Brown/White wire, going into Pin 7, shown below:
Power the relay with this.
I also swapped my automotive relay with a PCB Relay as suggested. it has 300ohms compared to 40ohms on my outgoing automotive relay.
all working perfectly with no flicker on the screen!
thanks again
jay