Thats correct pin 3 and 10 straight off the back of the window switch units.

The relays are as follows (obviously Im in the UK so it would be easier to source the same product from the States)

Timed 12V relay X2

12V VOLT TIMER TIMED RELAY WITH POSITIVE OR NEGATIVE OUTPUT NEW | eBay

DPDT relay

DPDT 12VDC Plug in Relay | eBay

Standard 5 pin relay

5 Pin Changeover contact STANDARD (mini) Relay | eBay