Bluetooth Retrofit...Activate Phone???

[mdrobc13]

Got the kit installed after a bit of trouble and confusion re; some of the fastners and finding the proper plugs located in the back of my XUS 2003 X5 4.4. However one area of question still was the voice jumper plug (came with your kit) vs something called the SES jumper plug which I think was already installed in my vehicle. Anyone know about these (See attached pics/post.) I removed the attached plug and attached yours the voice jumper plug. The rest of the install (mic, cradle/pairing was okay and easy). However I can't get the vehicle into pairing mode. I start it with the pairing button depressed for 1 sec prior and then release it two seconds to 3 secs after ignition and the phone menu comes on. I get a red light to the top right of my Nav but NO BLUETOOTH PAIRING MODE screen on the NAV. The screen just says ACTIVATE PHONE? What does this mean? Do I need to have the dealer code the system or something? My phone pairs fine however with my bluetooth Motorola handset and wife's Mercedes bluetooth system. I have a Treo680. Any assistance out there?