Bluetooth install help needed

[lukjod]

Hi
recently i tried to change assist into ulf module bluetooth in my 2004 3.0i usa version x5. Unfortunatelly i stuck on seats console wires connecting. Ive bought on ebay used tcu phone holder with bt pairing button which has a 18 pin female connector very similiar to that one coming from console compartment so without special male to male socket they cant be connected. Unfortunatelly i dont have this male-male socket pointed with red arrow on photo and my local bmw dealer is not able to help. Can anyone point me which wires connect together in both plugs ( best colors and pin numbers). to make my bt work in my car
Thanks in advance
Lukasz