| crosvs |
01-08-2009 05:04 PM |
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Allow me to give another point of view..
I say you fix all the damage, replace the parts, give your daughter a kiss on the forehead and teach her the oldest lesson in life, "shit happens"...
After all, she's in college, working to get good grades and spending her spare time trying to make some bucks to keep her head a float.
I was in a couple small accidents when I was young and my dads philosophy was, accidents happen and he didn't want me to worry about it. As long as I wasn't being blatantly stupid: drunk driving, driving reckless, etc. He was always just happy I wasn't hurt and took care of it. He didn't want me burdened while I was struggling to make grades, etc.
So while I understand you trying to instill a sense of value into your daughter, I say, give the kid a break. If she wasn't in college or didn't seem to have any sense of responsibility I would argue differently...
Pay for it all, tell your daughter you want nothing less than a B on her report card for the next semester and move on...
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TOTALLY :iagree: and to add to that:
With all due respect sir -- I don't pretend to know what it's like to be a parent -- accidents DO happen, especially with new drivers.
Unless she's a typically irresponsible, careless girl, I'd say put this behind the both of you and be grateful she was driving a BMW and came away unhurt.
Reminds me of an argument I had several times with some people who said they'd only get old used cars for their child's "first car." I said why? They said because new drivers are more likely to have an accident. I said, "Precisely: isn't that why they should have a new(ish), safer car with modern safety features rather than an old clunker that is a death trap?" They said, yes, but if you're in a more dangerous car you're more likely to drive safely. The point is, this is incorrect: statistically, if you're inexperienced, you're more likely to have an accident -- all things being equal -- and therefore need a safer vehicle.
What would you rather lose, your child or your car and money?
My point again: be grateful she's healthy and safe, and unless she's prone to irresponsible/careless acts, just forget about it and move on and just have a talk about what happened, how, and why.
Again: I don't pretend to know what it's like to be a parent supporting children yet, but this is definitely how my parents raised me, and I've only suffered one accident in all my life, and I'm 29 now.
Just my 2c. |
