Gadar: How would you spot a gay man who pose as straight?

[JonK]

I was in the office last afternoon having a chat with a lady friend of mine.

While we were joking around with some sexually explicit materials, fortunately I am not shaggin' with her unless she lose 50lbs and 20 years off her age. One new hire who is a 30ish Caucasian male came in and joined the conversation. I told them how I possess qualities that are not common among straight male despite the fact that I am straight and sure about myself i.e. I will be the first one who would spot if a female colleague who changed her hair or put a new pairs of shoes and compliment them, and I often fancy some music that are considered gay: Shania Twain, Mary J Blige, etc..

He, the new hire, shared his experience working for House of Blues and their liberal dress code; he stated that if he wore woman's lingerie and a thong they wouldn't have minded. Right after he left he left, she slapped her lab and shouted, "Oh My God, he is gay!" "He just expressed what was on his sub-consciousness."

My friend was an extremely successful real estate agent for 20 years. I sort of trust her ability reading a person considering her background. (I also resent a person who starts unnecessary gossips that could be couter-productive.)

I think it is a fascinating subject. Any thoughts?
(Disclaimer: I personally think that a person’s sexuality doesn’t concern me, as long as he/she does the job at the workplace and understand why someone has to pretend someone he/she is not.)