///M front bumper cover
 

i have a 2009 35d and hit a chip in the bumper cover, can i just get an ///M bumper cover and attach it without any real hard mods? if so where can i find either an OEM or aftermarket one?

What do you mean by ///M? X5M (4.4TT engine) or X5 with M-package?
Anyway, for X5M front bumper you will need new headlights (X6 style), fenders, new hood, new fender flares and few other parts behind the bumper.
For M-package you don't need anything else, maybe few other small parts behind the bumper or wider fender flares if you wish.
If I was in your situation I would get AC-S front bumper for about $1000, see picture below.

http://www.zercustoms.com/news/image...W-X5-E70-3.jpg

Is 1k painted price?

No, add ~$200 for good painting job.

Get the ACS.