Just to add its a 2005 E53 x5 under the arm rest i have the button (man wave). Also upon ejecting the tray I can see connectors facing upwards on back park for a phone connection. And there is a tray which pivots up and down with TCU written in white.

I have pressed the button for 3 secs and longer switched to both 1 and 2 ignition.
I have also pressed the (Man Wave) button on the steering wheel and done the same again ignition 1 and 2.

Also used BMW scanner cleared the paired devices and tried using the software to start the pairing again nothing happens on the screen just keeps saying Activate Phone.

I have reset the unit via the BMW scanner software and tried all the above again and nothing.

Also tried changed the PK code and done the above again.

Only errors appearing are those listed in this post.

Also tried different phones and a laptop to see if BT can be discovered.

When driving/engine on if I press the R/T button on the steering wheel dash displays Activate Phone.

I have looked in the boot and all looks connected silver box at and angel but then if something was wrong I would expect the bmw software to pick this up.

other than the above cant see what else I can do without taking it to BMW.