Post the part # of your BT/Assist module and we will be able to determine exactly what you have.

Certainly with the initial batch of BT/Assist modules, VR was not included within the module. However by March/April of the following year ('05) the modules were including VR.

The symptoms of not having a SES connector is that everything will work fine, however you can hear the caller, but they can't hear you. Thats when you know the SES jumper plug is not installed !

Its possible that the dealer simply needs to recode the entire BT/Assist module regardless of you having Assist active or not.

Another cheaper option might be, to try someone elses phone that is on the approved BMW BT compatibility list.