Most likely just need a new gasket. The gasket I am guessing is where you see the number 1 & 3 in the diagram.

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If its leaking from gaskets 4 or 5 then that would be quite a bit more work involved.

Not sure what you asking about the head being broken? An exhaust leak should not cause a head to be damaged in any way.

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