I know your issue sounds far more complicated but I've had transfailsafe come on just because my MAF was either disconnected or I had the vacuum tube to the throttle body disconnected, causing a massive vacuum leak.

I'm assuming the speed sensor on the transmission has been reconnected?

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2006 X5 3.0L - Schwarz Black/Truffle Brown
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But I keep it clean