Update:

Looked at the Lexus GX/RX...also drove their cars as i wanted to see how they were...ES, their interior looks pretty good and drive was'nt bad......
Soft Close on the X5 has been fixed now...dealer good willed labour and had to pay for part only.
So last weekend i drove it a lil hard on CT15 following an audi...i fell in love all over again with my 4.8is and i think i will keep it till i have a major issue...engine or transmission (both of which work great for now)