Ok, the mirror finally popped out of the holders using a wooden paint stirrer to pry from the bottom.
There is 2 wires for the heater, and a connector for the auto-dim. See pics.
Plugged in the heater wires on the new heated only mirror, stowed the loose connector inside the housing, and snapped it back on. No codes that were visible on the dash appeared. looks good, no issues.
Question, on the original mirror, looks like the heater connectors have some sealing goo over them, do I need to do this to the new mirror to seal out dust, water?