New x5 Owner from the UK

[bcredliner]

Originally Posted by Isambard

Hmmm, I wasn't really interested in any of your suggestions before that little hissy fit, let alone after!

In case you hadn't noticed, this is a forum. The Oxford dictionary has it as 'a meeting or medium where ideas and views on a particular issue can be exchanged'. I sincerely hope that doesn't need explaining any further.

No, the OP didn't directly ask for an opinion, then again, neither did I. Neither of us had to. Why? Because it is what it is, a FORUM.

The fact that the OP posted photos is (and for you not to know is a great insight into how you get along in this world) a way of seeking affirmation from the viewer. It's the same if you were to show a photo of your car, house, boat, or kids to another person. You expect a response. Why are you showing it if you don't?? The 'norm' is to expect a good response like 'wow, that looks great', even though the person is lying throught their teeth just to be kind. However I am not the kind of person that lies to be kind. Lies are for kids who know no better. I don't like the interior. Build a bridge, get over it.

And what great perception of you to not notice the fact that I gave advice to help him out with his search for the manifold. What did you do to help?

Thanks for your opinion.

I apologize. I shouldn't have made it personal.

My point is--

I think it is our responsibility to welcome new members in a very positive manner. Our responses will be the first impression of the forum, and, at that juncture, reflect on the entire membership.

When someone posts they just bought an X5 and post pictures, I agree, it is because they are proud and pleased and feel a great place to share that is with other X5 enthusiasts. Yes, I think they expect, and should expect, as common curtesy, positive feedback. As you mention that's normal. Seems to me that is the time when--if we can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all should reign supreme, leaving the responses to others.

I applaud OP for taking the high road.